5 Online Dating Mistakes Almost Every Plus-Sized Woman is Making and How to Avoid Them

Been there? Done that? No worries. Here’s how to avoid the mistakes again:

Avoidable Mistake #1:

Looking desperate.

Your profile picture must be clear, modest, and have only you in the picture. This can be done with a simple smartphone, it does not have to be professional. Make sure your outfit is modest, mystery is more attractive than pictures that are too revealing. Immodest pictures can also communicate desperation, which is the opposite of what you want.

 

Avoidable Mistake #2:

Picking the wrong site.

If you are looking for a long term committed relationship, then why are you on a hook up site?   There are websites specifically designed just for committed relationships. Why do you think that is? Relationships can be hard, but the benefits outweigh the risks. Why not start with someone who wants to respect you from the beginning, not just see you as a notch on their belt? Don’t waste your time or money or body on all that. You deserve to be respected.

 

Avoidable Mistake #3:

Catfish profile.

While it is tempting to portray what your favorite magazine says is attractive, honesty is the best policy. When you project a perceived desired persona, you have to keep up this persona. You want someone who will love you for who you are, all that you are. So in your profile…be who YOU are. If you are not, you will dread the “reveal” day and it may end up like an episode of Catfish. Even if you profile pic is accurate, men can spot a fake.

 

Avoidable Mistake #4:

Rushing through the personality quizzes.

Many sites offer an inventory that helps you to assess who you really are when no one is looking. This allows their metrics to place you with the most suitable candidate according to their system. They also cause you to think about who your ideal suitor is. There is much self knowledge to be gained as you go through it. If you take the time to consider who you really are, what you really want in a partner, you are much more likely to recognize Mr. Right when he comes shows up in your inbox.

 

Avoidable Mistake #5:

Too Much Too Soon

So you found a potential match. The suspense is killing you. You want to get to know him as soon as possible and start picking out china.

Stop. Right. There. Take a deep breath.

Before you tell him your life story and all the ways you are broken, contain yourself.

When you take time to get to know one another you will create a trust that is strong enough to sustain the deep knowledge of one another.  Your life and experiences are like pearls. You do not want to throw them out before just anyone. You want someone who will treasure and respect them. So how will you know? You go slow and you reveal little at a time. If the warning flags go up, you stop. You have control over your life and information. Take time to respect yourself in this process.

 

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Author: Daisy Burgan

I work with Curvy women that are totally ready to have an authentic committed relationship with the man of their dreams. I give them tools to deal with an inauthentic dating world while helping them to look and feel totally confident. I've been married for 10 and a half years. I dated online and in person as a curvy, plus-sized woman, and met my husband as a curvy, plus-sized woman. I have taught at the college level, and have spent about 14 years working in healthcare. When I'm not helping women find the love of their lives, I'm writing and singing songs from the depths of my heart, meditating on scripture, writing and editing blogs, and social media content, spending time with my hunky husband Jake, or growing organic food in my backyard and making delicious, nutrient dense food in my kitchen. If you are ready to be the best version of yourself, take the necessary steps, and let yourself be seen for the beautiful amazing woman that you are, come work with me at DaisyBurgan.com

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